Everything you do should be simply natural. Things tend to feel really awkward when they appear to be forced or planned. People react things better when they seem just to fit right into their life. It's like having a person walk up to you and have a conversation like this.
Person: "Hi!"
Yourself: "Hello?"
Person: "What's going on?"
Yourself: "Um, not much. You?"
Person: "Oh, nothing."
The problem with this conversation is you know the person wants something, but they're not telling you. It's weird and frustrating and you'll want to get away as fast as possible. My goal for this post is to teach you how to be more relaxed, confident, and fun. Here's how, in the the first example the person didn't give you their name or anyway to tell you that they're not a threat. The person could be really nice but we don't know that from the information here. Now I'm going to help this guy out.
Person: "Hey, I just had to come tell you (pause) you have the best shoes I've seen all day. I'm Mike.
Wow not only does this person now have a name, but he also said something he like about you. He built suspense to get your interest about what he liked about you. From there you can have a more natural conversation knowing that Mike is a cool person.
Now back to the point about opportunity and a reason behind everything. People really forget that most won't approach them because of shyness or fear. A lot of people probably won't compliment you something they like. Its the mentality of doing and acting upon things when they're convenient. It makes perfect sense for most people. They don't want to go out of their to make something happen. However that justifies only laziness, and since I'm sure by you reading these articles you seek more to life. You want more than just ordinary. As humans were pretty adaptable already so there's no need to just settle. In the long run it will drive us in insane. However that's the problem with change and opportunity. They come on their time and their time only. It makes sense we want the change so we should have to go and get it. For life to be truly successful and fulfilling, its a must for you to have ambition, motivation, and a good reason for what you're doing. Those are the basic keys for making things more natural and flow effortlessly.
Not only does learning how to make your interactions with people and life more natural, it gives you a better piece of mind in the long run. So in the future be one of those outgoing people who just makes people feel better about themselves and their life. It will make it easier to obtain friends, you don't want people wondering why you're talking to them. You want people to have a warm genuine feeling about talking to you.
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